Welcome to a new episode of Real Talk from OSYL. In this episode, we are joined by our special guest, Ally, as we chat about unconditional love vs. our boundaries. Just how far are we willing to go for loved ones?
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Some believe love can be unconditional. Love can be kind, and always supportive. All of the cliches--you can name them. But it appears with any type of emotion (or, action), there are limitations. How far can we go before we reach the thresholds of our love for someone else? What are our boundaries where we draw the line, and cut off our love for someone? Easier said than done, but we all have to make that difficult choice in our life sometime. There can be many scenarios. It could be with friends, not just family. It can be with strangers and acquaintances, but at the end of the day we seek connection. With connections, we form relationships with boundaries--whether these boundaries are explicit, or not. It can be the toxicity of someone's personality, and how we deal with them, all comes down to our personal choice.
In this episode, we join our special guest, Ally, who is back for the second time after a great episode the week before, and we then take turns tackling the following group of questions for this fire round:
What limits do you have for someone? Similarly, what are your deal breakers? What are the deal breakers in your trust with others, friendships, family, etc? When do you as a person decide to draw the line in a relationship with someone and cut them out of your life? What would it take for the person you love the most to push you away? Or lastly, how do you recognize toxic people in life and when do you end it?
More abstractly, what would be something your loved one could do that would make you end it? How extreme of a crime?
When it comes to personal choice, some believe that figuring out boundaries with others is about respect. When respect becomes tainted, some cut ties, while others give out second chances--if it's warranted. During the show, some discussed that it's about showing kindness and respect when showing boundaries, other believe that the wiser age, the more valuable our time is, and so it's not worth keeping toxicity in our lives.
On the extreme side, we discuss hypothesis about loved ones. How extreme is extreme before we cut ties. We discuss hypothetical scenarios and movie scenes, but it's hard to discuss when it's a situation you haven't been in. For some, how much of a hard crime would it take for you to cut ties with your loved one? As fun as it is to discuss these scenarios, we hope that we don't find ourselves ever having to make those choices.